God designed the local church to play a vital role in helping his people “become conformed to the likeness of His Son” (Romans 8:29). God’s goal for His children is that we increasingly look, live and love just like our Lord Jesus Christ. As church leaders, A big part of our calling is to be used by God to help this transformation take place.
Emotional and Relational Intelligence Questionnaire
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How Do We Know?
So the real question is how do we know if people in our congregations are becoming more like Jesus? Is the answer in church involvement, learning Bible doctrine, or abstaining from sin? These are important, but Christ established a clear criteria. In John 13:34-35 he says, A new commandment I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. One evidence of our becoming more like Christ is our ability to love others as Christ loves us.
But how do we know if we’re loving others as Christ loves us? How do we assess what difference Christ is making in our lives ? One way is through a unique relationships assessment designed to identify where people are in terms of their spiritual, emotional and relational health. To make this possible The Center for Healthy Relationships has developed the Church Relationships Assessment (CRA).
The CRA is based on the greatest commandment, Love the Lord your God with all of your heart, soul, mind and strength, and love others as you love yourself (Mark 12:29 -31). It is designed to help your church answer the question: How do we know that the teaching, preaching, and training we offer is making a meaningful difference in the lives of our people? The CRA is designed to give you a unique “thumbprint” of your congregation, where they are spiritually, emotionally and relationally, their strengths and potential areas of growth .
We regularly go to the doctor to assess our physical health, but how often do we stop and take stock of what’s going on in our lives spiritually, emotionally and relationally? For most of us it’s been a long time since we’ve taken 30 minutes just to sit and assess the condition of our heart, our walk with the Lord and our relationships – to ask ourselves: What difference is Christ making day-in and day-out? Who can tell? How can they tell? What’s different about my marriage? What’s different about my family? Am I a different dad, a different wife, a different employee, or a different friend? Does Christ make a difference in how I handle conflict, how I express my anger, how patient I am, or how I forgive? This is an application of Proverbs 27:23: Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful attention to your herds .
The CRA is the result of over 15 years of research and development at John Brown University and Denver Seminary. The CRA is easy to administer and provides a significant amount of helpful information in a short period of time. The CRA is designed to be taken by the entire adult congregation, both married and single. We even have a version for teens.
Churches may elect to conduct the assessment during a worship service. This significantly increases the validity and effectiveness of the assessment. The forms are typically distributed after a short introductory message at the beginning of the service and takes approximately 30 minutes to complete. Churches have found that a worship service is the most ideal time for administration however each church is different and we can discuss other options for administration.
Why should we take the CRA?
- The CRA identifies actual spiritual, emotional and relational needs within the church and not just the “felt” or “perceived” needs.
- It assesses strengths and growth areas—what is and isn’t working.
- The results can replace hunches, guesswork, and wishful thinking with objective information.
- The CRA assures members that the church’s leaders value their opinions.
- It involves the laity in the decision process and workings of the church. Once people become involved, they are likelier to participate in other ways.
The CRA measures the emotional and relational health (maturity) of your congregation.
The data from the assessment is compiled into a 20-25 page report with charts and detailed explanations. This report highlights your church’s strengths and outlines purposeful and practical strategies to address potential growth areas. The comprehensive report of your assessment results includes:
- Demographic information
- Data on how satisfied people are with specific aspects of your church
- Spiritual health and spiritual practices data
- Emotional health of your congregation
- Relational health of your worshipers
- A report on the health of your marriages and families
- Comparison of your church to a national database
Finally, the report is presented to your church leadership team in a two-hour consultation. You also have access to a CHR consultant for guidance in applying results.
THERE IS TREMENDOUS POWER in thinking about what Christ has done for you, who God’s called you to be, and what you hear every Sunday in comparison to what is actually being applied in your life. Sheldon Vanauken said it best: The strongest argument against Christianity is Christians—when they are somber and joyless, when they are self-righteous and smug in complacent consecration, when they are narrow and repressive, then Christianity dies a thousand deaths. But, the best argument for Christianity is also Christians; their joy, their certainty, their completeness.
Our hope and prayer is that as a result of taking the Church Relationships Assessment you will have a more accurate awareness of the strengths and growth areas of your congregation and that they will be more aware of some of the practical ways Christ can make a meaningful difference in their lives.