Loving Your Husband


How do I love my husband?


This is a great question and one that each one of us needs to ponder frequently regarding our spouse. We begin by learning how to love our spouse by simply asking what says love to them-getting feedback from them on their needs. Learn their love language. Watch them and look for how they respond to gestures of love. Secondly, love in better ways by brushing up on the ability to listen well and encourage greatly. It is a gift when someone really listens without interruptions or interrogation. Thirdly, take time to understand and relate to him in ways that are meaningful to him as a man. Men appreciate respect for what they do right down to how they drive or mow the lawn. Learning better ways of loving takes time, intention, and sensitivity. It’s a process. Isn’t it great that marriage offers us a lifetime of discovering how to love?

Gary J. Oliver, ThM, PhD
Executive Director at Center for Healthy Relationships | + posts

Dr. Oliver is the Executive Director of The Center for Healthy Relationships, and professor of Psychology and Practical Theology at John Brown University.  He has authored over 20 books and more than 350 professional and popular articles.  Dr. Oliver has over 40 years’ experience as a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage  & Family Therapist and Spiritual Director.  He leads seminars & workshops both nationally and internationally on a variety of counseling-related issues, healthy relationships as well as Emotional & Relational Intelligence (ERI).

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