Q&As

Fearful Child

My 13-year-old daughter is almost paralyzed by fears. She won’t try new things because of her fear of failure or disaster. Her conversations are peppered with “What ifs” and “I cant’s.” I know she is capable of succeeding in many things, and I also want her to learn there is no shame in occasional failures. What can I do to help her out of this downward spiral of negativity?

Forgiving Spouse

My husband and I were both sexually active before we were married. When we married and became Christians, we realized premarital sex was wrong and we asked God for forgiveness. The problem has been that my husband has not been so forgiving.

Frequent Moves

We’ve moved 16 times during our 18 years of marriage. He says each move is to find a job with more opportunity. I can’t get attached to any place, I’m depressed, and I feel as if I can no longer function. What should I do?

Gaming Husband

My husband has a group of six or seven friends who get together three times a week to play football video games. Although I love him, his video-playing makes me not want to be affectionate—or even nice!—to him. Please help!

Grandparents and Rules

My kids (ages 5 and 7) love their grandparents, and my husband and I want to help foster that relationship. The problem is my parents won't help enforce our rules. How can we address this with my parents?

Growth in Anger

I’ve gone to seminars, listened to tapes and read books on how to be an effective parent. Most of the time I do a great job. But when I lose it and start dumping on the kids, I feel like all of the good I’ve accomplished has been undone. It’s so discouraging.

Healthy Anger

We have two young boys who are 19 months apart and they both struggle with anger. We’re doing a better job at managing our anger but, need some help in teaching our boys how to deal with their anger. Any suggestions?

Healthy Criticism

I often overhear my two daughters criticizing other people. I think they're picking it up from other kids at school, but I want them to see the positive instead of the negative in other people. Any suggestions?

Healthy Spouse

My husband has had bad experiences with physicians and had cancer in the past. And now he won’t go in for check-ups. I'm afraid for his health. I’ve voiced my concern, but he isn’t doing anything about it! What can I do?

Household Chores

I wish my husband would realize there's more to cleaning than just picking up things. I feel bad complaining, and he gets mad easily when I try to communicate with him. What can I do?

Internet Pornography

My husband confessed that he’d been engaging in Internet porn for several months. I feel totally crushed. It’s so hard to know what to do. Please give me some perspective.

Jobless Spouse

My husband is showing no initiative to find a job. I'm not sure how much longer I can take this. I love my husband with all my heart, and I just want to resolve this problem.

Late Discipline

Is it too late to start over with our son -- and do you have any tips for how we can do it better this time?

Leave and Cleave

My wife and I struggle over the topic of loyalty to each other verses our relationship with each other's family.

Live-in Father-in-law

My wife’s 92-year-old father moved in with us three years ago after his wife died. We do most everything together—at Pop’s speed. Any advice on how to see my way through this circumstance?

Live-in Sister-in-law

I love my sister-in-law –and I’d love to see her get her own place. My husband and I have no intimacy or privacy. She has no social life, so she’s always around. What can I do?

Loving Discipline

I give her options about unimportant things, such as what she will wear to school, but I put my foot down when she refuses to wear her coat on a cold day. Nevertheless, she persists and we end up in a terrible battle of wills. How can I make her obey without breaking her spirit?

Loving Your Husband

How do I love my husband?

Loving Your Wife

How do I love my wife?

Military Spouse

My soldier husband has been stationed in Iraq for two years, and he’s set to come home soon. While I'm excited to see him, I’ve gotten used to handling decisions and our house on my own—like when I was single. What can I do to make the readjustment easier?

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